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I was currently offered a job going on 3 months now. However, I am not very comfortable with my performance. I am becoming very stressed and unhappy. I am currently thinking of leaving as I don't think I am contributing enough to the organization.

It is really taking a toll on my life these days; even my family seems to be unhappy because sometimes I tend to snap at them for no real reason. I am seriously considering leaving at the end of the month.

I need your advice.

Thanks.

Answer

Dear Stressed and Unhappy,

I understand how you're feeling--the first three to six months of a job are the most overwhelming! During this time period you are learning job-specific processes and systems, and building a new professional network--all while doing the job you were hired for. During this initial learning curve, it is normal to feel like your contributions are inadequate. This is a great time to check in with your manager for feedback. He/she can help you identify goals, and set up measurable ways to track your progress. Together you might also identify any professional development courses that you might be eligible for (on their dime!). Also, ask your manager to share with you one or two things you are doing well. It sounds like you could use the encouragement!

Regarding your family relationships, I would suggest treating the people in your life the same way you rely on your manager: ask them for support and feedback. Use the time when you get home from the office to decompress by talking about your day with your family. Then, ask them about what projects they are working on in school or work. Helping your family navigate their obstacles might just be the boost of confidence you are looking for!

Good luck.

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